Il Signor Errore

Maria Montessori chiamava l’errore Signor Errore.

Secondo me è una bellissima espressione. Gli errori non sono da evitare, ma da accogliere come indicazione su come aggiustare il tiro.

Quanti errori irreparabili potremo mai commettere nella vita? Quanti errori saranno invece dei preziosissimi compagni di viaggio che ci aiuteranno a comprendere cosa fare diversamente in un’altra occasione?

Non è facile dire “Ho sbagliato” e magari dover chiedere scusa, ma non c’è miglior modo per far tesoro dell’esperienza.

Guardate i bambini che imparano a camminare. Alla fine imparare a camminare potrebbe essere una metafora della vita: osservi, provi, cadi, riprovi,  fai degli errori, inciampi, ti rialzi, ti fai male… e un giorno corri!

Allora basta flagellarci per gli errori che abbiamo commesso! Se ci possono essere utili per capire come far meglio, bene, se no, visto che sono dei Signori, salutiamoli educatamente e lasciamoceli alle spalle.

Buon anno nuovo!

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La vita è ingiusta

Questo non sarà il solito articolo che siete abituate a leggere sul mio blog. Non parlerò delle feste, della gratitudine e della gioia nel mondo.
Questo è un articolo che parla di tristezza, perdita e dolore, perchè la vita è ingiusta.

La gente muore mentre noi stiamo facendo il conto alla rovescia per il giorno di Natale e siamo impegnati a decorare le nostre case, a comprare regali per i nostri cari ed a festeggiare con amici e familiari.

Ci sono padri che muoiono nel periodo della festa del Papà, madri alla festa della mamma e mariti, mogli, figli, figlie e non c’è nulla che possiamo fare per coloro che vivono questa esperienza.

Possiamo solo lasciare che vivano il loro lutto tentando di essere una presenza invisibile per non  farli sentire soli.

Si fa tanto parlare di come tutto succeda per uno scopo.

Stamattina sono stata ad un funerale e non sono riuscita a trovare uno scopo nella morte della moglie di un amico con due bambini piccoli.

Riuscivo solo a pensare: come ce la farà?

Dopo il funerale, fuori dalla chiesa, tutti lo hanno avvicinato, cercando di trasmettergli affetto e supporto.

Io ci sono passata e so che il peggio deve ancora venire. Tra pochi giorni ognuno tornerà alla propria vita.

Nulla sarà più come prima, ma arriverà il momento in cui la tristezza smetterà di essere parte della vita di tutti i giorni.

Nessuno di noi può far nulla per cambiare questo.

Eppure qualcosa che possiamo cambiare ci sarebbe.

Per tutto il giorno non sono riuscita a non pensare a quanto tempo perdiamo rimuginando su cose stupide, covando risentimento, dimenticandoci dell’unico importante scopo nella vita: amare ed essere amati.

Da qualche parte ho letto che Gandhi una volta ha detto “Siate il cambiamento che volete vedere nel mondo”. Il cambiamento che io vorrei vedere nel mondo è che muoiano solo persone anziane, dopo una vita piena di gioia e amore, ma, poiché questo è impossibile, io vorrei provare a portare gioia nella vita delle persone che amo e a cui tengo.

Io non so se riuscirò, ma posso provarci.

 

Life is unfair

This won’t be the usual article you are used to reading in my blog. I won’t talk about the season, about gratitude and joy to the world.

This is an article about sadness, loss and grief, because life is unfair.

People die while we are doing the countdown to Christmas day and we are busy decorating our homes, buying gifts for our beloved ones and celebrating with friends and family.

Fathers die on Father’s day, mothers on mother’s day, husbands, wives, sons, daughters and there is nothing we can do for those who experience these losses.

We can only let them grieve trying to be an invisible presence, in order not to let them feel alone.

There is a lot of talking about how everything happens for a purpose.

I was at a funeral this morning and I could not think of a purpose in the death of a friend’s wife leaving two young children.

All I could think was: how is he going to manage this?

After the funeral, outside the church everybody surrounded him trying to let him feel love and support.

I’ve been there and I know the worst is yet to come.
In a few days, everybody will go back to their lives.

Nothing will ever be the same, but the time will come when sadness will stop being a part of everyday life.

There is nothing anyone of us can do to change this.

But there is something we can change. I thought all day long about how much time we waste worrying about stupid things, holding grudges and forgetting about the only important purpose in life: loving and being loved.

I’ve read somewhere that Gandhi once said “Be the change you want to see in the world”. The change I want to see in the world is that only old people die, after a life full of love and joy, but, being this impossible, I want to try to be a joyful presence in the life of those I love and care about.

I do not know if I will succeed, but I can try.

So you think you can write?

I love reading. I know you know. Since I started exploring the magical world of written words I could not stop.

I read anything: books, magazines, newspapers, labels, instructions, letters, blogs, mails…

I’ve always been fascinated by a good piece of writing. The feelings a good novel or a good article can bring up are priceless. I remember once getting goosebumps just reading an article about The Clash in the Rolling Stone magazine.

Loving this art so much, I really get disappointed when I read something and it does not match my expectations.

Unfortunately, this happens more and more lately.

Poor and empty books, articles and magazines are everywhere. And what upsets me the most is that often the authors are everywhere as well, celebrated like geniuses of the printed words.

The cultural level of the publishing industry is quickly sinking .

This damages not only the good writers and journalists, who still work with passion and attention, but also the readers, who unconsciously and gradually get used to low-quality writing and emptiness of content.

In this situation, many of us who love reading think they can also write. Hence, the incredible success of personal blogs and sites of creative writing. Some of them are really, really good and make you think that there is still hope. Others could use some editing and inspiration.

Where does my blog stand? I do not know and actually do not care. Do you know why?

Because writing in my own blog gives me the freedom to write whatever I want, whenever I want, about anything I want.

I think everyone should try it sooner or later. It is not like writing for yourself like you would a diary or dreaming about ending that novel in the drawer you are too ashamed to even talk about.

It is funny and empowering. It makes you want to explore different subjects, to challenge yourself to manifest your opinions and to discover something new about yourself.

Let’s call it blog-therapy! I highly recommend it!

Would you like to try it?

Pensi davvero di saper scrivere?

Amo leggere. Lo so che lo sapete. Da quando ho iniziato a esplorare il magico mondo delle parole stampate non mi sono più fermata.

Io leggo di tutto: libri, riviste, giornali, etichette, istruzioni, lettere, blog, e-mail…

Sono sempre stata affascinata da un buon pezzo. Le sensazioni create dalla lettura di un buon romanzo o di un bell’articolo sono impagabili. Mi ricordo una volta di aver avuto la pelle d’oca semplicemente leggendo un articolo riguardante i Clash su Rolling Stone.

Amando quest’arte così tanto, rimango veramente delusa quando leggo qualcosa che non soddisfa le mie aspettative.

Sfortunatamente negli ultimi tempi questo accade sempre di più.

Libri, articoli e riviste scarsi e poveri di contenuti sono ormai dappertutto. E ciò che mi disturba di più è che spesso anche i loro autori sono dappertutto, celebrati come se fossero dei geni della parola stampata.

Il livello culturale dell’editoria sta rapidamente affondando.

Questo non danneggia solo i buoni scrittori e giornalisti che continuano a fare il loro lavoro con passione e competenza, ma anche i lettori che, inconsciamente e gradualmente, si stanno abituando alla scrittura di bassa qualità ed al vuoto di contenuti.

In questa situazione molti di noi che amano leggere pensano di saper anche scrivere. Da qui l’incredibile successo di blog personali e di siti di scrittura creativa.

Alcuni di questi sono davvero molto buoni e ti lasciano ben sperare. Altri avrebbero bisogno di qualche correzione o maggior ispirazione.

A che punto sta il mio blog? Non lo so e a dir la verità, non mi interessa. Sapete perché?

Perché scrivere sul mio blog mi dà la libertà di scrivere quello che voglio, quando voglio, di qualsiasi argomento voglio.

Io penso che prima o poi chiunque dovrebbe provarlo. Non è come scrivere per sé stessi come si fa con un diario o come sognare di finire quel romanzo nel cassetto di cui si ha troppa vergogna anche solo per parlarne.

E’ divertente e stimolante. Fa desiderare di esplorare vari argomenti, di sfidare sé stessi a manifestare le proprie opinioni e scoprire qualcosa di nuovo su di noi.

Chiamiamola terapia blog! La consiglio vivamente!

Volete provare?

The club of women’s self-consciousness and well-being

For a long time I wanted to find a meeting place for women to discuss and share experiences. In a feminist fit a few years ago, I even baptized it “The club of women’s self-consciousness”. Too bad, I had no place I could put this sign up.

Men are fantastic, male friends useful, but when the right harmony among women happens is a priceless feeling.

Today I spent a wonderful afternoon with a new friend walking in the woods and talking about issues that I am passionate about: relationships with people, how to think freely, how to expand my horizons … do not worry, I did not see any rainbow unicorn.

However this is me, this is the dimension I love to move in. In a few days, I will go back to the city, where I miss these geographical and mental spaces, but that is fine.

I spent many years thinking that “after all everything was fine”, but it was not the same feeling I have now.

There was often that feeling of discomfort in the pit of my stomach … I tried a bit of everything to figure out what it was: check-ups, exercise, reading, relaxing, therapy, but the results were poor or short-term.

When I decided to find solutions where I was not just “the client”, but also an active part, the situation changed.

After three years of courses I got a diploma in Naturopathy, followed by certificates in Kinesiology and Ayurvedic touch. At the same time, I studied traditional Chinese medicine, Mudra, Eft tapping and I experienced all these techniques on myself.

There is so much rubbish in this field, but also many valuable techniques that can really help deal with various issues, to break up false beliefs, to relax, to support ourselves, in other words to be the leading person of our well-being.

Think about it: for example, massages are wonderful (and I get as many as I can too!), but they are an outside source of well-being. If the activation of an improvement process of our psychological and physical state can start from a few small daily actions made by us isn’t it better?

I taught women like us self-massage techniques that became an affirmation of their value and I saw mothers of children labeled as “difficult” emerge from meetings with the teachers with a happy face after only a few weeks of sessions …

No, I will not say that “I’ve seen things you people would not believe”.
Yet I believe that halfway between the doctor and the psychologist, there is a way to feel good.

The next time you happen to feel something, a discomfort, that is not really an illness, but almost, try to listen and give a chance to this approach. If you want, I am here. You can write a private message on the Facebook page of Linda Jett and I will be happy to help.

Take care of yourself; no one else in the world will ever be so close to you!

I think I forgot something…

Welcome back everybody!

I am so into all the issues we have faced so far, that I have just realized that I did not say anything about the name of my site.

Why “Stillrocking”? For me “rocking” means going ahead, wanting to do new things, not missing a beat, not losing the desire to make my voice heard.

I have come so far and sometimes it was hard, but I am so pleased. I planned and implemented projects and dreams of which I am proud, because to do so I challenged myself and all the bias and prejudices I received and that in part I had created myself.

There is a verb I like very much: break up.

Being able to break up false beliefs, prejudices, influences that have piled up for centuries in the world of women is my ambition and I am sure many of you feel my own restlessness, my own desire for freedom.

There are many women who do not want to be comfortable, but do not know how to channel all the energy they feel and are often frustrated because they do not feel understood.

I tried to find my way without knowing where to start and I finally realized that I just had to be me, the real me.

Do not feel selfish taking this road, indeed this is a brave and generous attitude. What is good about being kind and helpful to others if we do not know what drives us to do it, because we do not know ourselves? And if we cannot see the reality of things, but only false visions dictated by notions that have been imposed, how do we get to know ourselves?

I invite you to read the myth of Plato’s cave. Then, we can talk about it.

See you next time!

The journey of awareness

There’s a beautiful poem by the Indian writer Tagore, which talks about traveling in the whole world and not noticing “the drop of dew” glistening in the field in front of your house.

Do these words resonate with you?

Travelling, talking about our travels, frantically surfing the internet to find the best hotel-rate or the less expensive flight seem to be something you can’t avoid nowadays.
However, if you do not enjoy the journey and the holiday starting from the planning, they are not a pleasure anymore, but a source of stress.

When you plan a holiday, the first question should be “Do I really feel like doing this journey, visiting this place, staying away for this time length?”.

Let these questions do their work with no hurry. If the 10 minutes have become your daily habit, you already know that the right answer FOR YOU (this is a concept I will never tire of repeating) will come to you soon.

Simply waiting for the departure day should be exciting. Preparing your luggage should be fun.

Do not fool yourselves! If just thinking about anything regarding the journey makes you feel more anxiety (a little of course is ok) than happiness, sense of anticipation, curiosity, try to learn from your feelings that maybe you have loaded this holiday with too much expectation. Maybe next time you will be able to choose with more awareness.

But…
What if the holiday has already been planned and you feel this uneasiness and you would rather lose your advance-payment and stay home?

Try to think about every single positive joyful detail. Try to visualize the place, what you will see, what you will enjoy.
Feel like you are already there. If you get in this state of mind, anxiety will disappear and you will leave feeling better.

There are wonderful places you can see all around the world, but there is also a little something we should not forget: it is  “the drop of dew” right in front of us.

It could be the quiet place, not far away from home, where we treasure fond holiday memories with our Grandparents and family.
It does not take long to get there, you do not need a big suitcase.

As time goes by, this can become a chance to look inside us, with all our senses pampered by known perfumes, noises, voices, air, memories, food, people, that become new, year after year, because we change. Do you think it is worth a try? Your choice.

If these suggestions do not give you anything new to think about, there are two possibilities: either you already master motivational/relaxing techniques (what are you doing here then? :-)) or you have already searched this field, but never tried anything, because you think that they do not work.

You know your answer. I believe that every woman, who is interested in evolving and improving her life, should be curious and willing to experiment with new approaches, so it is up to you!

Enjoy your journey!

Piccolo spazio pubblicità

Ciao a tutte!

Vi piace il mio blog? A me tantissimo!

Su WordPress ho trovato diversi blog interessanti, ma ciò che mi attira al primo impatto è la pulizia della schermata.

E’ lo stesso per voi? Apprezzate il fatto che i miei articoli possano essere letti senza un continuo richiamo all’acquisto di qualcosa?

Vi assicuro che sul mio sito questa impostazione non cambierà, ma…
ora che si avvicina il Natale non volete provare a regalarvi e regalare qualcosa di diverso? Provate a curiosare cliccando sui pulsanti qui a destra.

Di cosa si tratta? Abbigliamento un po’ fuori dal comune, ma veramente per tutti i gusti, un’attività da provare almeno una volta per capire come davvero ognuno di noi può sentirsi fisicamente e psicologicamente più forte e un breve romanzo per capire come il coraggio di fare un salto nel vuoto possa regalare delle esperienze inaspettate.

A presto!