The only piece of advice I really treasure

Some time ago, inspired by all the lists of tips and suggestions for the new year resolutions I read and heard everywhere, I created my own half-serious suggestions list.

Do you remember?

I do not reject those pearls of wisdom, but I think that they are not as inspiring as I wished.

Today I stumbled upon a Mark Twain’s quotation I already knew, but that struck me as if I read it for the first time:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

It’s a fact that every century has its dreamers, inventors, visionaries. Depending on the time, they are and were treated in every possible way, from torture, derision, to awe, to suppression. But they all had something in common: the ability to go beyond the surface, to dare, to dream.

When Steve Jobs spoke the famous words, “Stay hungry, stay foolish!” he managed to sum up the unique philosophy of life that makes sense for me in a very short sentence.

The hunger for life accompanied by a certain amount of recklessness is not madness, it is the engine that should drive us to appreciate this journey, enjoying every opportunity, no matter who we are, where we live, how much money we have. What is appreciated by someone can be totally indifferent to another one.

Here is my list of what I have “explored” in recent years and that has enriched my life:

  •  create my own blog
  •  sing in a group
  •  practice Tai-chi
  •  practice Krav-maga
  •  discover the free online resources about meditation, energy techniques, motivational courses
  •  publish a household satirical magazine
  •  find resources that have inspired me to take care of my family and my home with no help
  • free myself from “reversed bias” (explanation follows) and learn to enjoy activities that I lived as a duty until a few years ago
  •  not being scared by washing machine and dishwasher breakdowns – yes, that’s right: as long as I can manage on my own, I will do it, screwdriver and clamp in my hand
  •  learn to say NO
  •  learn to let go of friendships that are fading
  • make room for new people, new ideas, new inspirations

None of this is making me rich (at least not yet …), less tired or perfect, but certainly eager to see what awaits me every morning.

And the great thing is that, the more I walk on this road, the longer becomes the trail of influences, imposed thoughts, unnecessary hesitation that I leave behind.

Even the “reversed bias” I mentioned before are terrible. Because of them we refuse “a priori” certain experiences, because we rebelled against them.

Take for example cooking. You already know what I think about it:

But when I try (“explore”) some new recipe, I like it! Just as I like it when the outcome of one of my pieces de resistance is confirmed for the umpteenth time.

Until some time ago I hated to cook, because as a girl I was surrounded by people who gave too much value to this ability. And I thought, “You bet your @$$ you will never see me sweating in the kitchen in this way.”

Life then took me to a certain point where I had to cook twice a day, lunch and dinner, every single day. For me it was a nightmare.

But one day, just for fun, I tried some cake recipes and it felt good. From then on I started experimenting and at some point I realized that after all cooking was not that bad and I could not believe that I had regarded it in this way for my whole life.

Cooking was not tiring, holding on to an idea that no longer belonged to me was.

Have I made you smile with this new article? I hope so, but I also hope that I’ve been able to make you feel the intensity I live everyday life with. This does not preserve me from living dark moments, but it gives me an awareness of the great light we can enjoy every day.

Have a nice weekend!

Insomnia and creativity

It’s night. Around 11 PM I had the terrible idea to fall asleep on the sofa watching a movie. And now I’m awake. Wide awake.

My  brain is processing thousands of thoughts and ideas. I must say, some are quite brilliant.

I realize that the times when I have the best ideas or elaborate projects that fascinate me most are always, in order:

when I’m drowsy
while I wash the dishes
on the rare occasions of insomnia.

What  have these three situations in common? I think it depends on a state of cerebral detachment created in the first case by a sort of unconsciousness, in the second by a semi-meditation  state due to the gestures and the sound and the feel of the water and in the third by the typical sensation of lack of time  you can experience at night.

I once read that people suffering from insomnia, for no apparent reason, have too much energy they do not  use during the day. It may be correct,  but I think  it is not just physical. It can be unexpressed creativity, keeping you up, trying to find its way out.

But can the lack of creative expression really affect the life of a person? I believe it can. I believe it so strongly that it was no. 1 of my list in my previous article “Good advice”.

So create, create, create! Music, movement, painting, whatever you want!

Am I saying this too much? Maybe, but it’s for a good cause: your well-being.

Finally, the second episode of “Good Advice”:

get cold showers and you will be less prone to get sick; if it helps you can yell or swear while doing it (personal experience)
try to have friends of all ages; it helps maintain good vision of the world
respect nature and animals; man is not the master of the universe.
After these words of wisdom, I thank you for reading my article and I will try to catch some sleep…

Good advice

Welcome back everybody!

Surfing on Internet lately I have found various lists of things to do and not to do in order to enjoy life at its best in every situation and regardless of your age.

Some of these lists were inconsistent and ridicolous, others made me think.

Guess what I decided to do? Priding myself for my originality, I’m going to write my own list!

I believe I experienced some aspects of life long enough to value them and at the same time to have enough time for those things I haven’t done yet so that they do not become useless regrets.

I do not know if I will complete my list today, maybe it will take several articles…

Anyway do whatever you please with it and I will be glad if you feel inspired.

Let’s get started:

  • Make space for creativity in your life. You do not need to be a professional artist, but if you feel the urge to play an instrument, paint, act, write, sing, take pictures, decorate, sculpt, dance, embroider, be an acrobat or whatever crosses your mind, DO IT! Your body and your  mind will thank you for this.
  • Move. Our bones, muscles, joints, lungs suffer if we do not keep them fit and I’m not talking only of everyday movements. If training is not constant you will not be able to do some movements as time passes by. I guess you do not want to become like those aching crooked old ladies, right?
  • Sometimes you feel exhausted and hysterical, but try to treasure the time with your children as much as you can. Enjoy the limitless tenderness and sweetness of this time of your life. Seeing them grow is fantastic, but it all passes so quickly.
  • Take care of your teeth. Period.

Well that’s enough for today. Too long lists are boring. Comment, if you please, and if you have any good advice for us, let us know!