This won’t be the usual article you are used to reading in my blog. I won’t talk about the season, about gratitude and joy to the world.
This is an article about sadness, loss and grief, because life is unfair.
People die while we are doing the countdown to Christmas day and we are busy decorating our homes, buying gifts for our beloved ones and celebrating with friends and family.
Fathers die on Father’s day, mothers on mother’s day, husbands, wives, sons, daughters and there is nothing we can do for those who experience these losses.
We can only let them grieve trying to be an invisible presence, in order not to let them feel alone.
There is a lot of talking about how everything happens for a purpose.
I was at a funeral this morning and I could not think of a purpose in the death of a friend’s wife leaving two young children.
All I could think was: how is he going to manage this?
After the funeral, outside the church everybody surrounded him trying to let him feel love and support.
I’ve been there and I know the worst is yet to come.
In a few days, everybody will go back to their lives.
Nothing will ever be the same, but the time will come when sadness will stop being a part of everyday life.
There is nothing anyone of us can do to change this.
But there is something we can change. I thought all day long about how much time we waste worrying about stupid things, holding grudges and forgetting about the only important purpose in life: loving and being loved.
I’ve read somewhere that Gandhi once said “Be the change you want to see in the world”. The change I want to see in the world is that only old people die, after a life full of love and joy, but, being this impossible, I want to try to be a joyful presence in the life of those I love and care about.
I do not know if I will succeed, but I can try.