The journey of awareness

There’s a beautiful poem by the Indian writer Tagore, which talks about traveling in the whole world and not noticing “the drop of dew” glistening in the field in front of your house.

Do these words resonate with you?

Travelling, talking about our travels, frantically surfing the internet to find the best hotel-rate or the less expensive flight seem to be something you can’t avoid nowadays.
However, if you do not enjoy the journey and the holiday starting from the planning, they are not a pleasure anymore, but a source of stress.

When you plan a holiday, the first question should be “Do I really feel like doing this journey, visiting this place, staying away for this time length?”.

Let these questions do their work with no hurry. If the 10 minutes have become your daily habit, you already know that the right answer FOR YOU (this is a concept I will never tire of repeating) will come to you soon.

Simply waiting for the departure day should be exciting. Preparing your luggage should be fun.

Do not fool yourselves! If just thinking about anything regarding the journey makes you feel more anxiety (a little of course is ok) than happiness, sense of anticipation, curiosity, try to learn from your feelings that maybe you have loaded this holiday with too much expectation. Maybe next time you will be able to choose with more awareness.

What if the holiday has already been planned and you feel this uneasiness and you would rather lose your advance-payment and stay home?

Try to think about every single positive joyful detail. Try to visualize the place, what you will see, what you will enjoy.
Feel like you are already there. If you get in this state of mind, anxiety will disappear and you will leave feeling better.

There are wonderful places you can see all around the world, but there is also a little something we should not forget: it is  “the drop of dew” right in front of us.

It could be the quiet place, not far away from home, where we treasure fond holiday memories with our Grandparents and family.
It does not take long to get there, you do not need a big suitcase.

As time goes by, this can become a chance to look inside us, with all our senses pampered by known perfumes, noises, voices, air, memories, food, people, that become new, year after year, because we change. Do you think it is worth a try? Your choice.

If these suggestions do not give you anything new to think about, there are two possibilities: either you already master motivational/relaxing techniques (what are you doing here then? :-)) or you have already searched this field, but never tried anything, because you think that they do not work.

You know your answer. I believe that every woman, who is interested in evolving and improving her life, should be curious and willing to experiment with new approaches, so it is up to you!

Enjoy your journey!


This is a blog for women.
This is a blog for those who want to start a journey to the discovery of women’s dignity. Dignity… sounds like an ancient word that has lost its meaning. Yet it has always been present in my vocabulary, even though the corresponding adjective doesn’t quite match the original word.

What is dignified? A behavior, a dress style, a life style? This sounds more like appropriate, suitable, civilized. For me dignity means consciousness, strength, pride. Yet these words hardly exist in our women’s world.
We are inclined to judge ourselves, to set limits, to fight with other women or with ourselves or even worse, to try to fit into a category.

And what happens if we do not fit anywhere? I guess each one of you has her own answer to this question.

To start this journey let me introduce myself and tell you which category I fit in… no one. As a teenager this hurt a lot, no need to deny it. I looked like a good girl, yet I loved rock and metal music; I loved reading, I was shy, I was bold, a good student, but with a strong attraction for those who were not; I was stuck, I was free…

My mother would look at me puzzled and ask me “Why do you have to be so enigmatic?”.

As I grew up I had no clear ideas about what I really wanted and I thought I would be happy working in an office, where unfortunately the worst kind of chauvinism ruled, so I guessed I had to think like a man to be worthy. I tried getting satisfaction from my career, but I only got heartburn.

I always wanted to have a family and the result was that I was mobbed because of my pregnancies, even though I did not generate an entire football team.
Then I got fired and decided to have a try at being a housewife.
That’s when I discovered the magical mommies’ world.

I had never met so many personalities before, sometimes belonging to the same person! But all of them had something in common, most of the times they felt inadequate. This feeling increased every time we talked together.

After some years, I can tell you something I am sure you already know: we usually feel faulty, especially when we are under pressure, most of the time for a false ideal of perfection. We totally forget the strength, the resourceful core, the power that lie within us, just awaiting to be used.

Each one of us can find her own expression of these forces, but the only way to do it is to be free.

Freedom, feeling free from any judgement, being aware of what is right for us: these are powerful tools that we must learn to use.

My journey is a long one, but I’m going on and I wish I could share what I have experienced so far with you, with women who are willing to listen to my feelings, my thoughts, thus creating your own way of thinking, which is the only one perfect for you, in the moment you’re living, with the resources you have. It doesn’t matter who you are, how old you are, where you live.

I want to make a difference, share my experiences, and help you become stronger. And if I succeed with just one of you, I will have won my bet.

See you soon

Alba o tramonto?


Non so se avete fatto caso all’immagine che fa da sfondo alla homepage. Io la trovo bellissima. Non voglio certo farvi credere che sia una mia opera, anche perché, se qualcuna di voi ha confidenza con WordPress, si sarà certamente accorta che è un’immagine standard.
Eppure sembrava messa lì apposta per rappresentare esattamente ciò che vorrei esprimervi.

Secondo voi è un’alba o un tramonto?

Comunque sia è un’immagine che suscita in me pace ed un senso di felice aspettativa. Per me è un’alba. Avete presente quando d’estate sorge il sole e siete già sveglie, con la vostra tazza della colazione in mano, godendovi il silenzio della casa? Ecco, per me è quel momento lì.

E parlando di mattine, vorrei introdurre l’argomento di cui vi parlerò oggi.

Chi di voi riesce a godersi normalmente la quiete della mattina, senza caricarsi fin dalle prime ore del giorno di una bella dose di stress, alzi la mano. Bene, come immaginavo.

La mattina è infatti il primo momento in cui noi donne, sia che viviamo sole, sia che condividiamo la casa, sia che abbiamo famiglia, ci facciamo carico delle aspettative del mondo, cercando di ispirarci a tutti i falsi modelli che ci vengono regolarmente propinati.
Il trucco, il vestito, la casa in ordine, la colazione per tutti, i figli perfettamente nutriti e vestiti…
Ora vi faccio una domanda e vorrei che ci pensaste bene prima di darvi una risposta.
A vantaggio di chi fate tutto questo?

Quante azioni compiamo, quante parole diciamo per compiacere il mondo che ci circonda, senza mai chiederci cosa ci fa piacere, cosa fa star bene NOI?
Quanti sorrisi facciamo, quanti colpi bassi incassiamo, a quante provocazioni rispondiamo senza domandarci se è quello che veramente vogliamo fare?

E’ un circolo vizioso che non cambia se non viene interrotto bruscamente. Non domandatemi come. Questa non è la posta del cuore o la rubrica di consigli di un qualsiasi spazio dedicato alle donne. Questo è un luogo di accoglienza per chi decide di prendere davvero la propria vita in mano, acquistando la consapevolezza della propria forza. Nessuna soluzione, nessun sistema è universalmente valido.

La mattina è il momento ideale per trovare anche solo 10 minuti della quiete di questa immagine, inverno o estate che sia, che viviate al mare, in campagna o in città, che siate sole o meno.

Da domani mattina deve essere chiaro per tutti e soprattutto per voi che per 10 minuti non esistete se non per voi stesse. Per cercare l’ispirazione giusta, per prendere coscienza del vostro valore e di tutta la meraviglia che ogni essere umano può portare nel mondo se solo trova il modo di coltivarlo.

Trovate ciò che più vi ispira per sentirvi bene in questo momento tutto vostro: un libro, un video motivazionale, esercizi di respirazione, stretching, yoga, una corsa, una preghiera. Qui non troverete ne’ giudizio ne’ pregiudizio.
Fatelo tutte le mattine, non fatevi distrarre da niente e nessuno, non mollate e siate oneste con voi stesse. 10 minuti devono essere 10 minuti e portate fino in fondo ciò che avete scelto di fare. Smettete di essere auto-indulgenti, incominciate a sgranchire la vostra anima e la vostra volontà.

Dopo qualche giorno vedrete che incomincerete ad avere l’ispirazione riguardo il modo giusto per voi per affrontare la giornata e chi vi circonda non potrà opporre alcuna resistenza, perché sarà un approccio che nascerà dal profondo di voi stesse e non dai consigli teorici di qualche libro o qualche guru di moda.

Forza, è un viaggio bellissimo! Iniziatelo!