The only piece of advice I really treasure

Some time ago, inspired by all the lists of tips and suggestions for the new year resolutions I read and heard everywhere, I created my own half-serious suggestions list.

Do you remember?

https://stillrocking.wordpress.com/2016/01/13/good-advice/

https://stillrocking.wordpress.com/2016/01/17/insomnia-and-creativity/

I do not reject those pearls of wisdom, but I think that they are not as inspiring as I wished.

Today I stumbled upon a Mark Twain’s quotation I already knew, but that struck me as if I read it for the first time:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

It’s a fact that every century has its dreamers, inventors, visionaries. Depending on the time, they are and were treated in every possible way, from torture, derision, to awe, to suppression. But they all had something in common: the ability to go beyond the surface, to dare, to dream.

When Steve Jobs spoke the famous words, “Stay hungry, stay foolish!” he managed to sum up the unique philosophy of life that makes sense for me in a very short sentence.

The hunger for life accompanied by a certain amount of recklessness is not madness, it is the engine that should drive us to appreciate this journey, enjoying every opportunity, no matter who we are, where we live, how much money we have. What is appreciated by someone can be totally indifferent to another one.

Here is my list of what I have “explored” in recent years and that has enriched my life:

  •  create my own blog
  •  sing in a group
  •  practice Tai-chi
  •  practice Krav-maga
  •  discover the free online resources about meditation, energy techniques, motivational courses
  •  publish a household satirical magazine
  •  find resources that have inspired me to take care of my family and my home with no help
  • free myself from “reversed bias” (explanation follows) and learn to enjoy activities that I lived as a duty until a few years ago
  •  not being scared by washing machine and dishwasher breakdowns – yes, that’s right: as long as I can manage on my own, I will do it, screwdriver and clamp in my hand
  •  learn to say NO
  •  learn to let go of friendships that are fading
  • make room for new people, new ideas, new inspirations

None of this is making me rich (at least not yet …), less tired or perfect, but certainly eager to see what awaits me every morning.

And the great thing is that, the more I walk on this road, the longer becomes the trail of influences, imposed thoughts, unnecessary hesitation that I leave behind.

Even the “reversed bias” I mentioned before are terrible. Because of them we refuse “a priori” certain experiences, because we rebelled against them.

Take for example cooking. You already know what I think about it:

https://stillrocking.wordpress.com/2016/02/03/grandma-josephines-sweet-treats-i-e-my-opinion-about-cooking-sites/

But when I try (“explore”) some new recipe, I like it! Just as I like it when the outcome of one of my pieces de resistance is confirmed for the umpteenth time.

Until some time ago I hated to cook, because as a girl I was surrounded by people who gave too much value to this ability. And I thought, “You bet your @$$ you will never see me sweating in the kitchen in this way.”

Life then took me to a certain point where I had to cook twice a day, lunch and dinner, every single day. For me it was a nightmare.

But one day, just for fun, I tried some cake recipes and it felt good. From then on I started experimenting and at some point I realized that after all cooking was not that bad and I could not believe that I had regarded it in this way for my whole life.

Cooking was not tiring, holding on to an idea that no longer belonged to me was.

Have I made you smile with this new article? I hope so, but I also hope that I’ve been able to make you feel the intensity I live everyday life with. This does not preserve me from living dark moments, but it gives me an awareness of the great light we can enjoy every day.

Have a nice weekend!

Annunci

The journey of awareness

There’s a beautiful poem by the Indian writer Tagore, which talks about traveling in the whole world and not noticing “the drop of dew” glistening in the field in front of your house.

Do these words resonate with you?

Travelling, talking about our travels, frantically surfing the internet to find the best hotel-rate or the less expensive flight seem to be something you can’t avoid nowadays.
However, if you do not enjoy the journey and the holiday starting from the planning, they are not a pleasure anymore, but a source of stress.

When you plan a holiday, the first question should be “Do I really feel like doing this journey, visiting this place, staying away for this time length?”.

Let these questions do their work with no hurry. If the 10 minutes have become your daily habit, you already know that the right answer FOR YOU (this is a concept I will never tire of repeating) will come to you soon.

Simply waiting for the departure day should be exciting. Preparing your luggage should be fun.

Do not fool yourselves! If just thinking about anything regarding the journey makes you feel more anxiety (a little of course is ok) than happiness, sense of anticipation, curiosity, try to learn from your feelings that maybe you have loaded this holiday with too much expectation. Maybe next time you will be able to choose with more awareness.

But…
What if the holiday has already been planned and you feel this uneasiness and you would rather lose your advance-payment and stay home?

Try to think about every single positive joyful detail. Try to visualize the place, what you will see, what you will enjoy.
Feel like you are already there. If you get in this state of mind, anxiety will disappear and you will leave feeling better.

There are wonderful places you can see all around the world, but there is also a little something we should not forget: it is  “the drop of dew” right in front of us.

It could be the quiet place, not far away from home, where we treasure fond holiday memories with our Grandparents and family.
It does not take long to get there, you do not need a big suitcase.

As time goes by, this can become a chance to look inside us, with all our senses pampered by known perfumes, noises, voices, air, memories, food, people, that become new, year after year, because we change. Do you think it is worth a try? Your choice.

If these suggestions do not give you anything new to think about, there are two possibilities: either you already master motivational/relaxing techniques (what are you doing here then? :-)) or you have already searched this field, but never tried anything, because you think that they do not work.

You know your answer. I believe that every woman, who is interested in evolving and improving her life, should be curious and willing to experiment with new approaches, so it is up to you!

Enjoy your journey!