All creatures great and small by James Herriot

There are books that are much more than what they tell, because they are linked to an emotion that can be the memory of when or where you read them or who got you to know them.

This book is part of a series written by a British veterinary surgeon, under the name of James Herriot, which tells about his personal and professional life in Yorkshire, starting before the Second World War.

His books were among my father’s favorite. My father died more than 30 years ago, but every time I read them it feels like he’s still here with me, laughing about the episodes that, even though we had read them many times, we kept on telling each another. Too bad that time did not last long.

Some might judge them as easy, simple or assess the style as not so exciting, but I wonder if books can be really the object of literary criticism.

When a book is written with feeling, heart, passion, suffering, and not just in order to sell, it cannot be nothing but a writer’s masterpiece.

Then the reader make what he wants of it.

A book is what you make it to be.

A book may be the masterpiece of your life at a time and let you down in another moment.

A book can be boring the first time and encourage unexpected reflections if you re-read it.

A book creates a unique relationship with the reader.

Books are living emotions.

Sometimes I read a book in just one day, sometimes it takes months to read another one. I am sure that, with a little attention, it would be interesting and useful to understand why…

In schools there is always less reading and more working with computers, I do not know why.

Children are no longer interested in reading. After the period of colorful books full of figures there is no longer the transition to independent reading, when one begins to understand her/his own tastes, chooses the titles, and most of all starts travelling with her/his imagination.

Maybe I am old-fashioned, but for me this means closing the door to a world of emotions that could be with you throughout your life.

A book really keeps company.

 

https://it.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Herriot

Memories…to forget

Welcome back!

Lately I find myself more and more involved with people who keep thinking about the good old days. Whether they talk about music, family memories, travel, objects, it always seems that the present will never have a chance to match the magic and perfection of the past. Poor present… we often forget that it is the only time in our lives where we can intentionally act to improve things.

I hate memories with no purpose. Memories of this kind only lead to nostalgia and melancholy.

I dare even to say that I would erase them if I could. I know very well that every experience makes me what I am today and if I erased some memories I would be like a puzzle with missing pieces. I would become, if this is possible, even more incomprehensible to me.

In spite of my ideas about it, I find myself identifying in the past: I am the person who has suffered this loss, I am the person who has had this accident, I am the person who has been dismissed …

Do you notice something? The bitterest memories are tied to negative situations. I have read somewhere that at least five positive experiences are necessary to psychologically balance one negative experience. I think this is not entirely true either. Maybe in the present, but not for distant memories.

For example, being treated in a rude and unfriendly way in a store is not a good experience and, whether you react or you remain speechless, it is difficult to get rid immediately of what happened. However, if during the day you receive five manifestations of kindness or affection in other situations, the memory of how you have been treated in the store could disappear. Maybe it could be even useful in order to choose whether to go back or not.

It is very different when the memory is linked to a past trauma. In these cases so many factors come into play (sights, smells, sensations) and it is hard to find a good solution for everyone.

I found great help in a technique called EFT Tapping. You can find my articles here:

https://stillrocking.wordpress.com/2015/11/03/this-makes-me-feel-good/
https://stillrocking.wordpress.com/2015/11/23/well-being-tai-chi-and-eft/
https://stillrocking.wordpress.com/2015/11/24/well-being-tai-chi-e-eft-part-2/

If you are interested in experiencing EFT, have a look at the link below regarding the 8th Tapping World Summit, starting on Monday, February 22. This is a totally free series of lectures and guided practices for those who want to get closer to this technique.

http://www.thetappingsolution.com/2016VideoSeries/

But there are also memories of beautiful experiences that make us happy in difficult times and that encourage us in creating others.

These are the memories to look back to from time to time, with the knowledge that even with small gestures of everyday life, we can help build the good memories of tomorrow.

These are not rhetorical words I assure you. Even in the darkest moments of my life, I have always tried to find a little light in every gesture, made or received, and if I could not find it, I would simply go on.

Life after all is the relationship with ourselves and every relationship requires love, commitment and patience. If we are willing to do this for the people we love, we must do the same with ourselves.

Take care of the person you are and choose the memories you want to keep with you. For everything else look for the right way to get rid of it.

Some experiences will stay with you forever, but you have the right to ensure that they do not hurt your soul every time you remember them.

 

The journey of awareness

There’s a beautiful poem by the Indian writer Tagore, which talks about traveling in the whole world and not noticing “the drop of dew” glistening in the field in front of your house.

Do these words resonate with you?

Travelling, talking about our travels, frantically surfing the internet to find the best hotel-rate or the less expensive flight seem to be something you can’t avoid nowadays.
However, if you do not enjoy the journey and the holiday starting from the planning, they are not a pleasure anymore, but a source of stress.

When you plan a holiday, the first question should be “Do I really feel like doing this journey, visiting this place, staying away for this time length?”.

Let these questions do their work with no hurry. If the 10 minutes have become your daily habit, you already know that the right answer FOR YOU (this is a concept I will never tire of repeating) will come to you soon.

Simply waiting for the departure day should be exciting. Preparing your luggage should be fun.

Do not fool yourselves! If just thinking about anything regarding the journey makes you feel more anxiety (a little of course is ok) than happiness, sense of anticipation, curiosity, try to learn from your feelings that maybe you have loaded this holiday with too much expectation. Maybe next time you will be able to choose with more awareness.

But…
What if the holiday has already been planned and you feel this uneasiness and you would rather lose your advance-payment and stay home?

Try to think about every single positive joyful detail. Try to visualize the place, what you will see, what you will enjoy.
Feel like you are already there. If you get in this state of mind, anxiety will disappear and you will leave feeling better.

There are wonderful places you can see all around the world, but there is also a little something we should not forget: it is  “the drop of dew” right in front of us.

It could be the quiet place, not far away from home, where we treasure fond holiday memories with our Grandparents and family.
It does not take long to get there, you do not need a big suitcase.

As time goes by, this can become a chance to look inside us, with all our senses pampered by known perfumes, noises, voices, air, memories, food, people, that become new, year after year, because we change. Do you think it is worth a try? Your choice.

If these suggestions do not give you anything new to think about, there are two possibilities: either you already master motivational/relaxing techniques (what are you doing here then? :-)) or you have already searched this field, but never tried anything, because you think that they do not work.

You know your answer. I believe that every woman, who is interested in evolving and improving her life, should be curious and willing to experiment with new approaches, so it is up to you!

Enjoy your journey!