The only piece of advice I really treasure

Some time ago, inspired by all the lists of tips and suggestions for the new year resolutions I read and heard everywhere, I created my own half-serious suggestions list.

Do you remember?

I do not reject those pearls of wisdom, but I think that they are not as inspiring as I wished.

Today I stumbled upon a Mark Twain’s quotation I already knew, but that struck me as if I read it for the first time:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

It’s a fact that every century has its dreamers, inventors, visionaries. Depending on the time, they are and were treated in every possible way, from torture, derision, to awe, to suppression. But they all had something in common: the ability to go beyond the surface, to dare, to dream.

When Steve Jobs spoke the famous words, “Stay hungry, stay foolish!” he managed to sum up the unique philosophy of life that makes sense for me in a very short sentence.

The hunger for life accompanied by a certain amount of recklessness is not madness, it is the engine that should drive us to appreciate this journey, enjoying every opportunity, no matter who we are, where we live, how much money we have. What is appreciated by someone can be totally indifferent to another one.

Here is my list of what I have “explored” in recent years and that has enriched my life:

  •  create my own blog
  •  sing in a group
  •  practice Tai-chi
  •  practice Krav-maga
  •  discover the free online resources about meditation, energy techniques, motivational courses
  •  publish a household satirical magazine
  •  find resources that have inspired me to take care of my family and my home with no help
  • free myself from “reversed bias” (explanation follows) and learn to enjoy activities that I lived as a duty until a few years ago
  •  not being scared by washing machine and dishwasher breakdowns – yes, that’s right: as long as I can manage on my own, I will do it, screwdriver and clamp in my hand
  •  learn to say NO
  •  learn to let go of friendships that are fading
  • make room for new people, new ideas, new inspirations

None of this is making me rich (at least not yet …), less tired or perfect, but certainly eager to see what awaits me every morning.

And the great thing is that, the more I walk on this road, the longer becomes the trail of influences, imposed thoughts, unnecessary hesitation that I leave behind.

Even the “reversed bias” I mentioned before are terrible. Because of them we refuse “a priori” certain experiences, because we rebelled against them.

Take for example cooking. You already know what I think about it:

But when I try (“explore”) some new recipe, I like it! Just as I like it when the outcome of one of my pieces de resistance is confirmed for the umpteenth time.

Until some time ago I hated to cook, because as a girl I was surrounded by people who gave too much value to this ability. And I thought, “You bet your @$$ you will never see me sweating in the kitchen in this way.”

Life then took me to a certain point where I had to cook twice a day, lunch and dinner, every single day. For me it was a nightmare.

But one day, just for fun, I tried some cake recipes and it felt good. From then on I started experimenting and at some point I realized that after all cooking was not that bad and I could not believe that I had regarded it in this way for my whole life.

Cooking was not tiring, holding on to an idea that no longer belonged to me was.

Have I made you smile with this new article? I hope so, but I also hope that I’ve been able to make you feel the intensity I live everyday life with. This does not preserve me from living dark moments, but it gives me an awareness of the great light we can enjoy every day.

Have a nice weekend!

Good advice

Welcome back everybody!

Surfing on Internet lately I have found various lists of things to do and not to do in order to enjoy life at its best in every situation and regardless of your age.

Some of these lists were inconsistent and ridicolous, others made me think.

Guess what I decided to do? Priding myself for my originality, I’m going to write my own list!

I believe I experienced some aspects of life long enough to value them and at the same time to have enough time for those things I haven’t done yet so that they do not become useless regrets.

I do not know if I will complete my list today, maybe it will take several articles…

Anyway do whatever you please with it and I will be glad if you feel inspired.

Let’s get started:

  • Make space for creativity in your life. You do not need to be a professional artist, but if you feel the urge to play an instrument, paint, act, write, sing, take pictures, decorate, sculpt, dance, embroider, be an acrobat or whatever crosses your mind, DO IT! Your body and your  mind will thank you for this.
  • Move. Our bones, muscles, joints, lungs suffer if we do not keep them fit and I’m not talking only of everyday movements. If training is not constant you will not be able to do some movements as time passes by. I guess you do not want to become like those aching crooked old ladies, right?
  • Sometimes you feel exhausted and hysterical, but try to treasure the time with your children as much as you can. Enjoy the limitless tenderness and sweetness of this time of your life. Seeing them grow is fantastic, but it all passes so quickly.
  • Take care of your teeth. Period.

Well that’s enough for today. Too long lists are boring. Comment, if you please, and if you have any good advice for us, let us know!


Well-being: Tai-chi and EFT

I don’t know how many times I started writing the articles on Tai-chi and EFT, how many times I corrected and deleted them.
The result of it is that after more than two weeks from the introduction “This makes me feel good!” I have not published anything on this topic yet.

This resistance of mine puzzled me and I tried to understand why. I came to the conclusion that once again my relentless, inevitable, inexhaustible desire for total freedom of choice took over.

And I believe that freedom of choice is the result of having no bias.

Constant reminders to take care of ourselves through exercise, diets and various techniques surround us and any new suggestion is supported by scientific studies.
The result is often a peak of enthusiasm bound to exhaust itself, leaving us disappointed.

What can I write to create an interest in something that I approached by chance and curiosity, not knowing anything about what was behind it?

It will be useless to list some “scientific” evidence of the effectiveness and value of these disciplines, if there is no curiosity.

Let’s talk about Tai-chi, the so-called long life exercise.

I will not try to define it according to the rules or to explain it through its history. For me Tai-chi equals softness, fluidity, beauty, pleasure to practice with a great instructor and with an interesting group of people who share this passion.

As I proceed with this exercise I also appreciate the precision of the forms and the martial-arts skills that hide behind every move. It gets better every time!

The social aspect of the group exercising together is important for me too! I practiced Pilates for years and I liked it a lot, but it was like being alone due to the lack of warmth and harmony in the group. What a shame!

In this Tai-chi group it is totally different. There is no fanatic, no know-it-all, no one judges anyone.

You know those scenes in the movies, where you see groups of people, maybe all dressed in white, who train in the parks and the sense of harmony they give?
We do not exactly look like that, but I assure you that when we start moving together at the same pace and we create a harmony of movements among us, in the silence of the gym, something magical happens!

What matters in what you choose to do is to find this feeling of joy and satisfaction.

If it just has to be an effort, your muscles will benefit from it, but not your emotions and well-being is a balance of both.

To be continued!

This makes me feel good!


Today I would like to introduce the topic of my next articles: well-being.

It would be great to know exactly what we need to be in a state of physical and psychological well-being, but often it is a life-long search, because we are ever-changing beings.

There is a lot of talking about meditation and relaxing techniques and I must confess that I am a big fan of these. Every time I’ve come across this kind of information I have always gone deeper to see if it was something right for me.

In the next articles, I will talk about this topic and how to find the space for these activities and techniques in our everyday life (do you remember the 10 minutes?).

In the last few years, I got very interested in three activities: relaxation through muscles movements, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Tai-chi.

In the first one, you achieve a very deep state of relaxation through muscles tension and release. It is not a very well-known technique and, even though it is easy to master it, it is better to attend a class.

EFT is widespread and the basic technique is explained very clearly in many videos you can find on YouTube. I personally follow Nick Ortner’s The Tapping Solution.

I also practice TAI CHI.

So in the next articles I will talk about Tai-chi and Eft.

They both have a connection with the Traditional Chinese Medicine. This connection is direct for Tai chi, while Eft has been inspired by it.

One of the basic concepts of the Chinese Medicine is the energy called “Chi” or “Qi” that flows through a net of meridians, the energetic channels.

On these meridians, there are many points that can be stimulated to balance the energy flow. To do this you can use for example acupuncture or pressure.

As for all topics I have written about, I will talk about these, because they are part of my life and make me feel well. Through my words, I try to encourage and inspire you, in this case to find your source of well-being without prejudices.

A martial art and an energetic technique? If they work for me what’s wrong with it?

I give this explanation, because I think that it is not right to give ourselves any kind of limits.

For instance, you know I love reading and I read anything.

At the seaside, I also happen to read gossip magazines and maybe in my bag I have Joyce’s Ulysses. What’s wrong with it? One makes me laugh, the other…well I still don’t know how Ulysses makes me feel, but this is another story… Anyway, they are both entertaining for me.

I hope I have intrigued you!

See you soon!